- Why you sometimes don't like the people you love
- Why certain small problems are so upsetting?
- Why some disagreements seem impossible to resolve?
- How irreconcilable differences can destroy relationships?
- And most important: What can you do about it?
Then this is the book for you.
Outsmarting Yourself is about uncovering your brain's strategies for navigating the world, strategies which sometimes help and sometimes don't! Dr. Lehman presents evidence from scientific research, case studies, and personal experience that will convince you of the reality of "invisible" memory and your Verbal Logical Explainer (VLE), and then help you maximize their strengths while minimizing the havoc they can cause. Dr. Lehman teaches you how to leverage the things you can choose to do something about in order to overcome problems you can't choose to change directly. Outsmarting Yourself will enable you to understand the people in your world, including yourself, and give you realistic, psychologically sound, and Christ-centered tools for becoming a joyful, life-giving person with thriving relationships.
The second edition includes forty pages of new material, four pages of which are a fun new chapter on humor as a resource for activating our relational circuits. The first edition was good, but the second edition is even better!